Online Arguments- The right & wrong way to do them

I chose an online discussion that started from a post in a closed facebook group. I recently spent some time on an island in Thailand called Koh Phangan, and while this group is called „Koh PhanganConscious Community“ and the island is pretty small, the comments and reactions to posts are often very direspectful and gaslighting. Its astonishing to me how people are acting childish and mocking others while having their real profiles on there, and might very well meet the other people in this group offline, face-to-face. Because it is a closed group and not available to those not in the group, I am providing screenshots of the discussion.

 

The author of the post is inviting people from the group to join another group for singles to „mingle and meet“.

 

 

3 negative examples and concerns about this discussion:

 

1.     People make fun with their reactions, off the bet mocking those that might very well be interested in meeting other singles. What is really wrong about wanting to meet other singles to potentially find a partner in a respected way?

 

 

2.     Disregarding the content and pointing out unrelated elements about the post or the author. Why do people feel the need to make others look bad online after they put themselves out there? It’s disrespectful behavior and no one would do that in real person.

 

 

 

3.     Calling others, here the author, stupid or names without context or reason. It is creating a hostile environment and makes the person who bullies just look bad.

 

Here are 5 rules for how people should argue online correctly:

 

1.     Be polite and respectful. Even if you don't agree with someone, treat them with decency and respect. Avoid using language that is offensive or personal.

 

2.     Focus on the subject at hand: Keep the conversation focused on the issue. Do not stray off topic or bring up unrelated subjects.

 

3.     Support your arguments with facts. Your arguments should be supported by reliable sources, relevant data, and solid reasoning. Avoid basing your answers primarily on gossip or unproven opinions.

 

4.     Listen to and take into account other viewpoints. Be receptive to hearing different points of view and giving them careful thought.

 

5.     Be open to rethinking your perspective if supplied with strong supporting data or convincing arguments that contradict it. Healthy debate aims to share views, learn from others, and perhaps reach an agreement or improved understanding.